“I first saw the idea on TikTok, which planted the seed, as I would never have thought of it,” says 30-year-old Kristina Asdis. “I guess it came from [a place of] annoyance and frustration as to why someone’s just stopped talking to me. I was hoping I would learn a bit about myself and how I’m perceived by others.”

But like Stef, it was also a way to teach her recipients that their words (or lack thereof) can cause real emotional damage: “It was a way to speak up and indirectly show them that their behaviour wasn’t great,” says Kristina. “If we voice it to them calmly and rationally then it can help them see that their actions can hurt and confuse others. It actually felt kind of freeing and therapeutic.”

In both cases, neither managed to tempt responses out of their ghosters – a silent reaction that, funnily enough, they did not seem shocked to receive. Nonetheless, both Stef and Kristina felt it was making the point that mattered, not the feedback.

Meet the women sending their bad dates and ghosters ‘exit surveys’